On Dating Advice From Magazines

In response to Kat Wilder's post. (Don't ask how I ran across it...)

I won't address each and every quotation mentioned, but I want to point out a few things.

In my experience, when men are interested in a girl, they are actually traveling down one of two paths: lust or love. Sometimes one turns into another. But most of the quotations you mentioned, however, only deal with lust.

Mystery (who was quoted by Playboy) comes from a particular movement that specializes in specifically just getting _sex_. And while his suggestions might sound ridiculous, he is by all accounts terribly effective (I haven't seen him in action myself).

Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but you're more looking for a relationship than just sex (though you're apparently having sex as well, which is good), so your concern with the things written about here should be something along the line of: 'If a guy takes my hand and puts it on his knee, he's the sort of guy who takes magazine Y as good advice.' Then you need to decide if this is the sort of guy you want to have a relationship with. And then you need to decide if you feel like having sex tonight.

I also think that these mags are targeted at a younger age group...my age group; which is clearly more interested in the sex. In my case, perhaps a slightly more focused study on Mystery and his cohorts theories would be beneficial to me...

Lastly, the intro to your post was written in a way to suggest that guys understand women, and women are being left in the dark about guys (and thus should educate yourselves). I'm sure I don't have to tell you this is hardly the case.